Sitting In Seattle, Expanding The Idea by Milliscent

Camping, RV’ing surrounded by people who embrace their own alternative sexualities, no matter what those might be or those who for whatever reason choose to affiliate themselves with people who explore these alternatives. All within an inclusive, non-threatening environment.

That would be I think a very sound basis for such an organization as I mentioned in my previous post.

I think that a weekend or a few days RV’ing in a beautiful campground can be energizing and a wonderful break for most anyone. I imagine that if one were surrounded by others with similar lifestyles that wonderful break could be ratcheted even closer to perfection.

It seems to me that we have in the bdsm community alone large numbers of people who will not attend bdsm events because they are uncomfortable playing in public or watching others do so. I imagine also that even the events which are largely limited to discussion tread too close to public play for many of these people.

I have to wonder if a vanilla event surrounded by kinky folks wouldn’t be a very good fit for those who currently stay clear of bdsm events.

I am much less familiar with the public poly community, but I imagine it to be much the same situation. A very active minority attending sexually oriented events, the large majority staying home, doing their thing in private.

Again I have to wonder if a vanilla event surrounded by poly folks wouldn’t be a very good fit for this majority.

I must admit that in my own life, in the past, I adored kinky events. Seminars, play parties, discussion groups, I found them all wonderful. Now it seems that I am much less interested in such events, and my attendance has fallen as a result. I would, I think, now prefer to simply hang out in more traditional ways with fellow kinksters than to join in at a major play party. I don’t want to overstate this, I do still love a great play party, but I also love my vanilla time with kinky friends, and I think that time is more meaningful to me at this stage of my life.

I think that this social interaction would be the main, likely only purpose behind such a group were it to be successfully formed. A way to deepen old friendships and make new ones. A safe place in which one would not have to be afraid to expose his or her unique sexuality.

Indeed it could even be a wonderful way to meet new people whom one would be able to play with later. It is I think difficult to meet wonderful people to share our adventures. Helping a vanilla partner to find the joys in our kinks can work, meeting partners online can work, and meeting people at community events can work. I wonder if meeting people at a vanilla event populated by kinky folks wouldn’t work best though. If the vanilla social situation wouldn’t allow a perfect opportunity for potential partners to get to know one another. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if Jim and Polly met Ken on the events first evening, got to know each other that night and the next day, then all after this foundation was created got to see how well that bed made for two worked for three.

I don’t think that I would see such a group limited to any particular alternative sexuality, rather an inclusive group that celebrated all of those alternatives.

I wouldn’t think that it should be limited to partnered folks only as ‘play’ groups are. Play would not be the purpose of the group, so I don’t imagine that singles could harm the group’s energy at all.

Lastly I would see no need or desire to limit the group to RV people. While for me, RV’ing is perfect at this point in my life, there was a time when I adored tent camping, and I know many who do so now. The point would be the getting out and into the campground, not how one does so.

I would love to read your thoughts.