It seems that in monogamous relationships partners often take each other for granted. As time passes they slowly begin forgetting just how special their partner is, just how exciting that partner was when love was new.

To my mind, a large advantage of polyamorous relationships is that one has very vivid reminders of these things. Seeing ones partner openly loved and desired by another serves as a reminder of the partners value, a reminder of how special and exciting that partner is.

Being reminded of these values, of this desirability, serves to help keep one from taking his or her partner for granted. This is, I think, a fundamental strength of ethical polyamorous relationships. A strength found in neither traditional monogamy, nor serial monogamy, another reason why polyamory should be considered by those so inclined.

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I find it interesting that people have a hard time understanding how I can emotionally handle polyamory. They seemed shocked that I can deal with the fact that my wife plays with other people constantly and has no qualms at all about using someone else for her own sexual pleasure.

I’ll admit that it’s a bit strange listening to ones wife professing her love to another man, but strange is all it is, not cause for rage, envy, or anything of the sort.

For those who wonder how we can emotionally handle our rather unique lives, all I can say is look at what we have.

I am blessed with two beautiful, exciting, passionate women, both of whom love me and I do not have to skulk around, deceiving people while having an illicit affair.

All I had to do to have this was not look at my wife as if she was property to possess and control. I had to allow her the freedom to find happiness in ways different from the happiness she finds with me. She had to do the same for me.

I will not claim that the journey to successful polyamory was an easy one, for it was not. The payoff however was worth much more than the price we paid.

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Roxanne lives a couple hours away from us, and she had to return home the day before yesterday. A sad parting made less so because our next visit is already planned.

Last night though, as I climbed into bed I was graced with the scent she had left behind. A wonderful mixture of her perfume, her shampoo, her body. A scent which brought her instantly to mind for me, and which served as a reminder of the wonderful time we had shared.

This morning I was greeted by her again, her scent upon my towel.

I miss her already, but I know she will be returning very soon.

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